The Lowdown on Embrace and Let Go

A friend recently ended a relationship she had with a dude. They were together for about three months. Despite the short period of their relationship, breaking up is hard. She was feeling it. She told herself to "Just let go. Let go. I realize that this was the best thing I could do..."

Many of my friends probably have heard me talk about my theory of Embrace & Let Go. That's how I deal with my challenges when they arise. That technique has helped me through many difficult times.

Here's how it works. When I face a challenge, I embrace it. Embracing it means that I feel the pain, frustration, rage, or whatever feelings that challenge elicits. The key is not to deny those feelings. Don't try to replace those feelings. I let them marinate in my mind and reflect on the origin of those feelings. Then I let it go. I let it go only after I come to the understanding that there is nothing I can do to change the past.

Sounds pretty simple. It is. However, it takes practice to get better at it. I use the technique in dealing with happiness also. I embrace the feelings of being happy, enjoy it, reflect on it, and let it go.

Please remember that hardships give us strength and patience. Happiness allows us to be grateful.